How To Be A More Confident Woman

If you were to take a poll of the most attractive quality in a person, I would bet that in the top 3 would be confidence. There is something appealing about a person that is confident. Now, let me distinguish confidence from arrogance. Arrogance is unattractive. Arrogance is repelling. No one wants to be around an arrogant person. Arrogance is a negative mindset, but confidence is different. The thin line that separates arrogance and confidence (in my book, at least) is humility.

Confidence is something we should all strive for and is something I’ve been working on actively since my divorce.

I wouldn’t say that I am confident. I will say that I am way more confident than I’ve ever been in my life, but still not where I want to be. I’d love to have the confidence to jump up on a stage and belt out a Whitney Houston song during karaoke and just wow the crowd, but a lack of confidence keeps me in my seat, only singing in the car. I’d love to stand up in front of a group of people and give a moving speech, but a lack of confidence keeps me hiding behind my laptop. I’d love to shout my opinions from the rooftop and not have a care about people disagreeing with me, but I bite my tongue and stick to my people pleasing ways.


My goal for my life is to continue to step out of my comfort zone and do stuff that’s scary for me. Using my fingers to do my talking isn’t scary. I may share (or overshare) things here, and that can get scary, but for the most part, when my words are on paper, I am confident. But to talk without pen and paper to an unknown audience, as they watch me, that terrifies me.

Elenor Roosevelt once said, “Do one thing every day that scares you…” Well, this is my one thing this month (still working on the day-to-day), and it’s so scary, I can’t even watch it myself.

Recently, I was contacted by Joey Phillipi. Joey has a mission to help women live a confident life, and a part of this vision is to interview 1000 women about confidence. I’m number 6. Eeek!

The doubt and fear inside of me wants to tell you about how I was super sick when doing this interview, feverish and congested, making some excuse just in case you think I sound dorky or my answer is stupid, etc. But I won’t, because confidence makes no excuses. Confidence just puts itself out there and says, “Here I am. Take it or leave it.”

Watch the interview below (it’s about 30 minutes long) and check out Joey’s blog post about it here.

If you’d like to be interviewed as one of Joey’s 1000 confident women project, check out her website here.

2 thoughts on “How To Be A More Confident Woman

  1. Thanks for putting yourself out there. Confidence is something that I really need to work on. And I need to get out of my comfort zone more often.

    1. I think confidence (or lack thereof) affects us all. We just need to stop listening to the naysayers in our heads and start believing how awesome we are!

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