When YOU’RE The Toxic Person In Your Life…(And How To Change It)

19 thoughts on “When YOU’RE The Toxic Person In Your Life…(And How To Change It)

  1. Very helpful for me! I needed to be told I am a toxic person and the ways to fix it on an ongoing basis. I knew deep inside something wasn’t right. Now I have a better perception of what is really going on. It’s hard when you constantly bury the problem. Thanks

  2. I liked this article. I have been told that I have negative thinking and I blame others. When the criticism comes from outside,it acts like a reality check. But on the inside I feel terrible about my own faults. I have Jack Canfield’s book. I ordered it a few years back along with other self-help books and I think yours might be the only blog which praised the book. Coz what I feel is that yes,it is one of the good self-help books out there, but it seems like it is focused more on professional success than on emotions. And it is a challenge to follow the advice of those books and my friends who knew I became quite ‘into’ the self-help world,felt that I should stop reading them. Even my counselor asked me to do that,when I sought help for depression.
    I hope I get out of this phase.

    1. Hi Lizzie,

      It’s definitely difficult to hear criticisms about yourself, but you are right, it is a reality check. The GOOD NEWS is, you don’t have to stay that way. You can make the choice RIGHT NOW to change. You can take 100% responsibility for your life and choose not to blame others and be the victim. In fact, that is the number one principle in that book and the ONE principle that changed my life from Success Principles.

      I loved SP because I want to be successful in all areas of life and that book not only focuses on external success but changing the way you think. I love it for its practicality. Of course, everyone has their own opinions and needs and so what resonates with one may not resonate with another at that time. I realized that there is a time for everything. I’ve tried to read SP a few times before I was actually ready for it and the truths hit me right where I needed them to.

      Now, I’m not a professional counselor or anything, but I believe that self-help books are great tools for learning and reading is amazing, but if YOU find that it’s more of a crutch or a detriment, then stop reading and start making maybe just one change. Decide that you are getting out of this phase and take the first step to do it! I don’t know what the first step is for you, but you do. You can and will get out of this phase! I believe in you, because I did it so I know it’s possible! Find an outlet to process that energy – writing was mine, but yours might be music or dancing or painting or cooking or whatever.

      Best of luck and please keep me updated on your journey. Email me anytime Hanssieh@gmail.com <3

  3. Hi I was wondering if you have any other favorite self help books that you’d recommend and also if you could recommend some good podcasts as well

    1. Hi Marissa,

      I actually have a blog post with some really good book recommendations, but that won’t be for a bit, so here are a few I liked that you might find interesting:

      – You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
      – 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
      – Unleash the Power Within by Tony Robbins

      Podcasts: I listen to School of Greatness but mostly these days I’m all about audiobooks. I will search for a topic and listen to specific podcasts about it as well.

      Hope that helps!

  4. I am a toxic person and i hate it. You dont want to see that your the one thats the problem and blame it on everyone else. You want everything to be about you and when its not throw a hissy fit and treat your loved ones like crap. I wish i knew how this started i don’t want to be that person you know? Its hard to actually see that i am the problem in all of this man but i am and i really want help. I am so tired of feeling depressed and sad all the time i just want to feel happy. Its so crazy how bringing your self to be happy is twice as hard but I’ll do anything at this point.

    1. Hey Brandey,

      First of all, thank you for reading and sharing. I know what you’re feeling and the good news is, you don’t have to be that toxic person anymore. It doesn’t matter how you got to this point, but where you’re going to go from here! It doesn’t sound like you want to be that toxic person anymore, so it’s time to put in the work and become the person you want to be. Start with gratitude. Think of 3 things every day that you are grateful for in your life. It’s not an easy road back and you’ll find that it’s easy to fall back into old patterns some days, but it’s so worth the work. Being happy does take work at times, but it’s so worth it.

      Good luck, my friend. And let me know if there’s anything I can do to help.

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