Last summer, I had some really awesome neighbors and one not so awesome old, crotchety neighbor who set out to make everyone’s life miserable. One by one, due to life’s circumstances, everyone moved…and eventually, to my immense relief, the grumpy old man and his wife left also. Hoping that he’d be replaced by someone fun, and I was glad to see that a twenty-something girl had moved in. Since been here about a week and since then, she’s been on some sort of emotional roller coaster.

At least, that is what I gather from the hysterical sobbing, yelling (at what I presume is into the phone at her boyfriend), and incessant pleading. She leaves her window open so the sounds drift out over the building for us all to hear, and you can’t help but feel a bit sorry for the gal…and also a bit annoyed. In the 7-8 days she’s been here, I’ve heard her 4 or 5 times already, same hysterical sobbing, same pleading.

In my moments of compassion, I want to tell her, “We’ve all been there, girl. Don’t worry, everything will be okay, someday.” Because I have been there, feeling that my world was coming apart at the seams; that I was losing everything. Sobbing until my nose was rubbed raw from tissue burn and eyes red-rimmed with tears that never seemed to stop.

Other times, I want to knock on her door and tell her to close her window and keep her drama to herself and get her sh*t together already.

But what I really should tell her (and myself way back then), is that if a person makes you that sad, maybe they aren’t worth all the pain. But then again, maybe they are. What I’ve learned in my short time of dating is absolutely nothing. It makes no sense. Haha. But really, I did learn that most men love the chase, and they need to work to get the girl. If you hand yourself to them on a platter, most times they will ignore you and go after the girl that’s hard to get. And if you’re begging him to stay, he’s seriously not worth the effort.

Read Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl – A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship. It’ll change your love life. I think I’ll anonymously leave a copy on my neighbor’s doorstep.