The Stages of Grief Are Exactly Like The Stages of Divorce

Sorry, I’ve been a tad MIA lately. Those that follow me on Instagram or Facebook will have seen the crazy busy October I had – from running my first marathon, meeting Lewis Howes (read my review of his now NY Times Bestselling book, The School of Greatness here), camping in Yosemite, a work conference in New York City (where I drove the Delorean!), going to Vegas for a crazy bachelorette party, photographing my good friend’s wedding, and a minor car accident to top it all off. I haven’t had a chance to do much but hold on for the ride. Now, I’m a bit under the weather and prepping for a trip to China, then Christmas and then it’ll be 2016. Crap. 

I saw this chart on my Facebook feed the other day that describes the stages of grief, but it also illustrates the stages of divorce perfectly.


As with grief, the climb out of the bottom of the pit after divorce is the roughest. Like a ball, sometimes you’ll feel like you are going to roll on the bottom stuck in the mire of panic, loneliness, guilt, isolation and depression. Sometimes you’ll make it up, almost to the top, but then you find yourself rolling back down again. But trust me, as someone who has rolled through the whole process (if you don’t believe me, I’m sure looking through some of my old posts will yield all the different stages), you eventually will reach the top – hope, affirmation, helping others and loss adjustment. It takes time, it takes patience, and it takes iron clad grit. You’ll likely have to claw your way to the top and, I won’t lie, it’s going to be rough. But it’s worth it. You can do it. I’m rooting for you.



One thought on “The Stages of Grief Are Exactly Like The Stages of Divorce

  1. It’s the same for cancer survivors. What are we grieving? The loss of all of our security in life. I identify myself through so many of the stages here. Might have to write about this. Been enjoying photos of all of your travel and adventures too. Happy Hols! 🙂

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