Back in the 10th grade, I had a “boyfriend.” We ate lunch together, he’d meet me at my locker, and we’d exchange notes (because text messaging didn’t exist back then, haha), held hands after school during practice…then, six days into our relationship, he grossed me out when he tried to kiss me, and I broke up with him immediately.

About a week after that, my good friend came up to me, told me she liked him and that he’d asked her out. She asked if I’d be okay with her dating him. I didn’t actually like him anyway, so I told her that I didn’t care. Which I really didn’t. But it was kind of weird to see them holding hands and kissing during lunch and after school practice. Weird, in a kind of creepy way. And a little part of me felt a bit betrayed by my friend.

In college, I didn’t really date so I am sure I unknowingly broke the Girl Code once or twice. And when I started dating my (ex) husband, there were two instances where I almost had to throw down on a few b*tches. Haha. I distinctly remember a girl who really liked my ex and would call him all the time and write him notes (I know, I know. This was a looooooonng time ago!). I had to tell her to back off, that he was my boyfriend and that I didn’t care how “good of friends they were,” she needed to find her own guy. (I knew little of “options” back then, but even so I refused to be one). Then one day we both were leaders at a summer camp. A camp counselor whom had been family friends with my boyfriend for a long time, pulled me aside and told me that “God told her” that I should not be with my boyfriend and that we were not right with each other. I laughed in her face and told her off, but now looking back, she was totally right, whether “God told her” that or not.

When I started dating last year, I learned about the Girl Code pretty quickly. I had a friend who needed attention from ALL guys. Not just the one she was talking to at that moment. If I were talking to someone somewhere, and she saw, she would literally swoop in and steal him away. It was annoying. And needless to say, I don’t hang out with her anymore.

So yes ladies, for those of you who don’t know, there IS a code of friendship. Here are some of the rules according to the Urban Dictionary:

~ You are never in any case to date a friends ex or a guy who she was really into. Exception: If he’s one of those guys who every girl likes.

~ You are to never diss a friend’s boyfriend except to agree lightly or nod when she says he’s being a a*hole. In most cases, it is easier to nod.  Exception: If a guy cheated or dumped your friend it is exceptional for you to claim he isn’t good enough, and that she deserves better as well as reminding her that he was an a*hole anyway.

~If you want to date a friend’s brother, it is required that you get said friends permission.

~ No girl is to ever hang out with the boyfriend of a friend without the friend present. If permission to is granted their should be at least 3 other people with you.

~ If a guy your friend is into asks for your number, you are to deny it and walk away, and/or slip him your friends number while saying, “I think she is more your type, you should call her”.

~ Chicks before *****. Simple.

~ In a fight between a friend and her boyfriend you must always choose your friends side.

~ When dating a girl should find equal and/or enough time to still hang out with her girls.

~ When a friend is drunk, never allow her to dial, drive or leave with a random guy.

~ When out with the ladies, if Girl #1 points out a guy that she is interested in, Girl #2 should avoid making a bee-line over to him to get his number for herself.  Show some respect.